If you're planning your wedding, it's easy to get overwhelmed by the list of 'must-haves' that you need to remember. Amongst the wedding favours, seating plans and catering options...there are some things that surely don't matter too much, right? But when it comes to the crunch, what was the thing couples wish they had done differently on their wedding day?
Letting other people influence your decisions
According to Hitched.com, this was the number one wedding day regret for couples. Often, friends and family will start offering up their opinions on all kinds of wedding-related decisions. Perhaps they mean well and they're trying to be helpful (or just plain bossy). This is especially tricky if you're naturally a people-pleaser. Setting boundaries is tough but so, so important. You may find people insist that you follow certain traditions...hands up if you've ever heard the phrase 'It won't feel like a proper wedding unless you [insert old-fashioned tradition].' Sigh. It's your wedding day, not theirs.
Not booking a videographer
This is included from my very own experience! Our biggest regret from our wedding day was that we didn't book a videographer. We had a tight budget to work with and it didn't seem like a huge priority at the time. Thanks to the pandemic, our wedding got postponed several times, so in the chaos of cancellations, date changes, lockdowns, and all that fun stuff, it slipped off our to-do list. Now, as the years rumble past, I get so envious when I see other people's amazing wedding day videos. We love our wedding photos but you forget the little in-between moments. If only I could turn back time!
Not booking a celebrant Of course, I'm biased, but I hear this all the time. Many couples regret not booking a celebrant. This arises for a number of different reasons. Firstly, many couples simply haven't heard of celebrants or may not have been to a celebrant-led wedding before. It's such a shame when you hear people say that they didn't even know that a celebrant ceremony was an option until after their wedding. Ouch, that's got to hurt. Sometimes, a venue may fail to advocate for celebrant-led weddings because they have an agreement in place with the local registry office, so they only offer registrar-led ceremonies to couples. Thankfully, more and more venues are now realising that it's better to offer couples the choice to celebrate their big day in the way that is right for them. As the popularity of celebrant-led ceremonies continues to soar, it's a smart business decision for venues to ensure they offer this option. There really is a celebrant for every type of ceremony, whether you want it to be light-hearted and funny, spiritual, or packed with pure party vibes. You certainly won't get that variety available from a registrar.
Say it louder for the people at the back...it's your wedding day, celebrate your way!
Want to chat about your wedding ceremony? Email katie@spellboundceremonies.co.uk
Image description: A smiling bride and groom share a kiss under an umbrella.
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